Ill effects of grief on the slaves of Allaah

بـسـم الله والحمد لله والـصلاة والـسلام على رسول الله، وبـعـد

The Prophet ﷺ used to say:

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ

❝O Allaah! I seek refuge with You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men.❞
📚 [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree]

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🎓 Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

❝(Some of) the reasons that the Prophet ﷺ sought Allaah's refuge from (worry and) grief is because it:
⚡Weakens the heart
⚡ Dampens the resolution (determination)
⚡ Harms the will (to move on)
(⚡ Prevents from making proper decisions).

There is nothing more beloved to Shaitaan than seeing a Believer in grief.

As Allaah تعالى said:

إِنَّمَا النَّجْوَىٰ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ لِيَحْزُنَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا

{Secret counsels (conspiracies) are only from Shaitaan (Satan), in order that he may cause grief to the Believers}
📚 [Surah al-Mujaadalah (58):10]❞

📚 [Tareeq al-Hijratain (2/607)] 

What does a woman want from a man?

بـسـم الله والحـمـد لله والـصلاة والـسـلام عــلى

رسـول الله، وبـعـد

What does a woman want from a man?

In short, the foremost thing she needs is security. She does not want a husband who makes her live in fear, like the one who often threatens her with marrying someone besides her (i.e. with a second marriage). Or he makes her feel that his friends and his gatherings with them are more important than sitting with her. Or because of his constant, long, unrestrained staring at women he makes her feel that he may abandon her (anytime).

She wants a husband who respects her... and who consults her... and who does not belittles her... and who praises her beauty... her talks... her cooking (food)... and he does not degrades her in front of others.

She wants her husband to give her tender loving care which she (badly) needs after long tiring work around the house, and with taking care of his kids.

She wants true love... which makes her feel that out of all the women (in the world), her husband has only chosen her. Love which touches her feminity (i.e. makes her feel like she is a woman) .

O husband! Do not be niggardly in spending over her (needs)... and fear Allaah regarding her rights... for she is one of the two weak ones... about whom the Prophet ﷺ advised us to take care of.

📚 [Shaikh Muhammad Ibn Umar Baazmool]