Brief Comments on Riyaadh al-Saaliheen #77

Do not treat your wives like slaves:

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

There are men who, out of no reason, annoy their wives, treat them like captives, do not fulfill their rights, yet they want the wives to be submissive and obedient and expect the marriage to be successful.

In the Hadeeth of `Abdullaah bin Zam`ah رضي الله عنه he mentioned: Then (in the sermon) the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم made mention of women and said: “There is amongst you who beats (flogs) his wife as if she was a slave, and then he sleeps with her at the end of the day.” [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (4942) and Saheeh Muslim (6837)]

Shaikh Ibn `al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم gave a sermon and `Abdullaah ibn Zam`ah was among those who heard it. Among the things which the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم mentioned was:

“There is amongst you who flogs (beats) his wife as if she was a slave, and then he sleeps with her at the end of the day.”

Meaning: he flogs (or beats) her as if there is no relationship between the two of them and as if she is a subjugated captive (and who is there only to fulfill his desires). This is not an appropriate behavior because the relationship between the man with his wife is a special bond which should be based upon love, affinity and away from immorality – either of statements or actions.

But as for his flogging her like a slave and then at the end of the day he wants to sleep with her – how can he sleep with her at the end of the day and enjoy her and fulfill his desires while he has beaten her like a slave?! This is an inharmonious behavior. That is why the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم admonished against such behavior, for such things should not be part of a man’s attitude (towards his wife). And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم spoke the truth, for such behavior does not befit a sane person let alone a Believer.

[Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen (3/118-119)]

The one who denies al-Istawaa is a filthy Jahmee

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

`Abdul Wahhaab bin `Abdul Hakeem al-Warraaq mentioned the statement of Ibn `Abbaas رضي الله عنهما: “The distance between the Seventh Heaven and the Kursee (Footstool and it is other than al-`Arsh (Throne)) is Seven Thousand (veils of) Noor (light) and He تعالى is above that (`Arsh – the way it befits His Majesty).”

Then `Abdul Wahhaab said: “Whoever claims that Allaah is here (on this earth), then he is a filthy Jahmee. Allaah تعالى is above the `Arsh and His knowledge encompasses the world and the Hereafter.”

`Abdul Wahhaab was Thiqah (a reliable scholar), a Haafidh (the one who memorized a lot of Ahaadeeth) and a man of great esteem. Among those who narrated from him where Abu Dawood, al-Nasaa’ee and al-Tirmidhee (in their respective books). It was said to Imaam Ahmad رحمه الله: After your (demise), whom should we approach to ask questions? He said: “Ask `Abdul Wahhaab” and he mentioned him with praises.

[al-`Uloo’ lil-`Alee al-Ghaffaar of Imaam al-Dhahabee (1/193/511)]

Brief Comments on Riyaadh al-Saaliheen #76

Be gentle with your wives and benefit from them the way they are.

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه reported: the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Take my advice with regard to women: Act kindly towards women, for they were created from a rib, and the most crooked part of a rib is its uppermost. If you attempt to straighten it; you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked; so act kindly toward women." [Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree and Saheeh Muslim].

In another narration of Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim, the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "A woman is like a rib, if you attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you benefit from her, you will do so while crookedness remains in her."

Using only the right hand for doing the Tasbeeh

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

Shaikh Naaser-uddeen Al-Albaanee رحنه الله said:

“So whoever does the Tasbeeh (Adhkaar) using the left hand (for counting) has disobeyed (and opposed the Sunnah); and whoever does the Tasbeeh using both hands (for counting), as is done by lots of people, then {they have mixed a deed that was righteous with another that was evil. Perhaps Allaah will turn to them in forgiveness}*; and whoever limits it to using only the right hand (for counting), then he has been guided and has followed the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم.”

[Saheeh al-Adab al-Mufrad pg. 471]

**[Surah al-Tawbah (9): 102]

Conformity of `Umar's رضي الله عنه statements with Divine Revelation

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

`Aaishah رضي الله عنها reported Allaah’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم as saying: “There had been among the people before you inspired persons and if there were any such among my Umma `Umar Ibn al-Khattaab would be one of them.” Ibn Wahb explained the word Muhaddathoon as: “those who receive hint from the High (Mulhamun).” [Saheeh Muslim (5901)]

Narrated Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه: The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “Among the nation of Banee Israa’eel who lived before you, there were men who used to be inspired with guidance though they were not prophets, and if there is any of such persons amongst my followers, it is `Umar.” [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (3689, 3469)]

The wretched 13 whom Allaah will not look at on the Day of Judgment

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

There will be a group of people whom Allaah تعالى will not look at on the Day of Judgment and they will be great in number. Allaah تعالى protect us and you from being among those who will not receive His Mercy on that Day.

So who are these wretched ones?

First: Those who sell their covenants and oaths to Allaah for a small price.

﴿إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَشْتَرُونَ بِعَهْدِ اللَّـهِ وَأَيْمَانِهِمْ ثَمَنًا قَلِيلًا أُولَـٰئِكَ لَا خَلَاقَ لَهُمْ فِي الْآخِرَةِ وَلَا يُكَلِّمُهُمُ اللَّـهُ وَلَا يَنظُرُ إِلَيْهِمْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَلَا يُزَكِّيهِمْ وَلَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ﴾