Takhbeeb: Corrupting or Instigating the Wife against her Husband

بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد

Ministry of Justice: 62 cases of Takhbeeb (instigating or corrupting a wife against her husband) have been registered in the court so far in the past 8 months.

The Ministry of Justice had informed Al-Madinah (newspaper) on 07/June/2016 that in the past eight months, the court has dealt with 62 cases of Takhbeeb – corrupting the wife against her husband or the husband against his wife – so far. The highest of which were registered in al-Riyaadh which saw 22 cases, and the courts in Makkah Province (including Jeddah) saw 17 cases of Takhbeeb being registered in this period.

The Lawyer, `Abdullaah al-Jiraish, explained that: “Takhbeeb is when a third person (a man or a woman) interferes between the husband and the wife with the intention of causing problems between them, and perhaps with the intention of their own marriage (i.e. a man intending to marry the wife, or the woman intending to marry the husband). If the corrupter corrupts the marriage with the intention of his/her own marriage with the one being corrupted, then such a marriage is Baatil (invalid), because in the Islaamic Legislation prohibits a man to propose marriage to a woman to whom another person has already proposed, it is not even allowed to propose to a woman who is in her Iddah, then how about one who tries to separate a man and his wife in order to get her.

He further said that a large number of divorce cases registered were due to Takhbeeb, and this is the direct result of when a third person corrupts or instigates the spouses against each other.

The Messenger of Allaah ﷺsaid: “He is not one of us who turns a woman against her husband or a slave against his master.”

[Sunan Abu Dawood (2175, 5170); and graded as “Saheeh” by al-Albaanee]

The Lawyer, ` Abdullaah al-Jiraish, confirmed that the Islaamic Legislation gives utmost importance to maintaining the family, and it strictly rebukes the actions of those who try to create separation between the husband and the wife by instigating or corrupting the wife against her husband, or by offering her wealth or something similar to lure her. Al-Jiraish also mentioned that the Saudi Law has not fixed a prescribed punishment – as a criminal offense, but the punishment has been prescribed as censure and to discourage such actions, which the attending judge decides, which also includes imprisonment and flogging. But when the third person interferes when there is a conflict between the husband and the wife, and his/her action leads to the divorce between the couples, then it is treated as a criminal offense which obligates punishment. One should note that Takhbeeb is corrupting the heart of the woman by this third person against her husband, taking advantage of the conflict between them.

And al-Jiraish further confirmed that the judge decides the punishment as a means of censuring the act, and depending upon the severity of the action – i.e. if the action by the interference of the third person led to the separation between the spouses.

--end of quote from Al-Madinah Newspaper.

The oppression of corrupting a person’s wife who was Halaal for him is worse than the oppression of taking away his wealth and property, and it is more severe if they have children between them.

It is very strange to see people who will sink to any depths for the sake of a fleeting moment of physical pleasure or illusionary happiness.

﴿وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّـهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا ۖ وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ ۚ وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّـهَ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا﴾

{And do not wish for that by which Allaah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allaah of his bounty. Indeed Allaah is ever, of all things, Knowing}

[Surah al-Nisaa’ (4):32]

As Allaah has blessed us with enough of that which is permissible, then what need do we have of immoral ways for the purpose of gratification, unless all a man cares about is pursuing his irrational desires?

Turning a wife against her husband does not only mean pushing her to demand a divorce; rather trying to play with her emotions and causing her to fall in love with you is one of the worst kinds of corruption and wrongdoing. 

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce for no reason, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.”

[Sunan al-Tirmidhee (1187), Sunan Abu Dawood (2226), and Sunan Ibn Maajah (2055), and graded as “Saheeh” by Shaikh al-Albaanee]

It is easy to manipulate and corrupt women because they are quick in denying the favors done to them by their husbands and are ungrateful to them.

Narrated Ibn `Abbaas: The Prophet ﷺ said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.”It was asked: “Do they disbelieve in Allaah? (or are they ungrateful to Allaah?)” He ﷺ replied: “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you are benevolent to one of them throughout the life and if she sees anything (undesirable) in you, she will say, 'I have never received any good from you.’”

[Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (29, 1052, 5197)]

Asmaa' narrated that the Prophet ﷺ passed by a group of women sitting down in the Masjid. He ﷺ said Salam to them with his hand and said: “Beware of the ingratitude of those with blessings. Beware of the ingratitude of those with blessings.” One of them said: “O Prophet of Allaah! We seek Allaah’s refuge from being ungrateful for the blessings of Allaah.” He ﷺsaid: “Rather, one of you women might have been without a husband for a long time (and then Allaah provides her with one) and she becomes angry and says: ‘By Allah, I have never seen an hour of good from you.’ That is ingratitude for the blessings of Allaah. That is the ingratitude of those with blessings.”

[al-Adab al-Mufrad (1047) and graded as “Saheeh” by Shaikh al-Albaanee]

Narrated Abu Sa`eed Al-Khudree: Once Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ went out to the Musallaa (to offer the prayer) of `Eed al-Adha or `Eed al-Fitr prayer. Then he ﷺ passed by the women and said: “O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women).” They asked: “Why is it so, O Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ?” He ﷺ replied: “You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.” The women asked: “O Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?” He ﷺ said: “Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?” They replied in the affirmative. He ﷺ said: “This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?” The women replied in the affirmative. He ﷺ said: “This is the deficiency in her religion.”

[Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (304, 1462) and Saheeh Muslim]